{"id":2958,"date":"2018-08-03T09:53:19","date_gmt":"2018-08-03T09:53:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/existentia.com.hr\/?p=2958"},"modified":"2018-08-03T09:58:49","modified_gmt":"2018-08-03T09:58:49","slug":"sartre-kako-naci-partnera","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/existentia.com.hr\/hr\/sartre-kako-naci-partnera\/","title":{"rendered":"\u0160to od Sartrea mo\u017eemo nau\u010diti o pronalasku partnera"},"content":{"rendered":"

Odlasci na spojeve pribli\u017eavaju nas egzistencijalizmu. Jedan od najve\u0107ih zagovornika ovog pravca – Jean-Paul Sartre – razvio je niz ideja koje nam poma\u017eu objasniti i o\u010duvati na\u0161e dostojanstvo\u00a0o\u010di u o\u010di s uzbu\u0111enjem, anksiozno\u0161\u0107u i povremeno, vrtoglavicom, koju mo\u017eemo osjetiti dok prolazimo kroz ritual “dejtanja” – odlaska na spojeve i pronala\u017eenja partnera.<\/p>\n

Klju\u010dni koncept egzistencijalizma izra\u017een je u Sartreovoj pone\u0161to opskurnoj, ali korisnoj\u00a0re\u010denici: “Egzistencija prethodi esenciji”. Ono \u0161to Sartre misli pod “egzistencijom” su dijelovi na\u0161eg \u017eivota koje smo slobodni sami za sebe odabrati: kako \u017eivimo, koji posao radimo, kako do\u017eivljavamo ono \u0161to nam se doga\u0111a. A “esencija” se odnosi na stvari koje le\u017ee van na\u0161e kontrole: na\u0161a biolo\u0161ka priroda, tijek povijesti, pozicija zvijezda…<\/p>\n

Ono na \u0161to nam je Sartre htio ukazati, kako bi nas oslobodio odre\u0111enih rigidnosti uma, jest da bi se “egzistenciju” trebalo smatrati va\u017enijom od “esencije”. Koliko god da si nekad volimo re\u0107i da stvari “trebaju biti” na odre\u0111eni na\u010din, zapravo postoje mnoge radikalno razli\u010dite mogu\u0107e verzije nas samih koje su nam dostupne; mo\u017eemo odabrati kako \u0107e stvari “biti” za nas do izvanredne razine.<\/strong> No ve\u0107inu vremena, smatrao je Sartre, ne dajemo ovim otvorenim aspektima na\u0161ih identiteta dovoljno prostora u svojim umovima.\u00a0<\/strong>Smatramo da je na\u010din na koji \u017eivimo neizbje\u017ean i nepromjenjiv, i da nemamo slobodu odlu\u010divanja kako \u0107e se na\u0161e pri\u010de odvijati. No Sartre smatra kako je to iluzija: osoba kakva smo sad nastala je dono\u0161enjem niza malih i ve\u0107ih odluka: ona je mogla biti potpuno druga\u010dija, i mogla bi opet u budu\u0107nosti biti druga\u010dija ovisno o na\u010dinu na koji koristimo svoju slobodnu volju u odnosu na sirovi materijal na\u0161eg \u017eivota.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Iznena\u0111uju\u0107e, no odlasci na spojeve – ili kako se to u suvremenom hrvatskom \u017eargonu punom anglizama voli nazivati, “dejtanje”\u00a0 – mo\u017ee nas upoznati s bogatstvom ovih dramati\u010dnih egzistencijalnih uvida. U godinama u kojima odlazimo na spojeve osje\u0107amo, mo\u017eda i vi\u0161e nego ikad prije, koliko je na\u0161e budu\u0107nosti zapravo nedefinirano, kako je malo toga zadato unaprijed, koliko mnogo opcija zaista postoji; kako zastra\u0161uju\u0107e i fluidne stvari mogu biti.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sa svakim spojem na koji odlazimo skiciramo – iako vrlo lagano – mogu\u0107u budu\u0107nost. Ako na\u0161 spoj u srijedu dobro pro\u0111e, mogli bismo zamisliti (primjerice) \u017eivot u kojem ljudi s kojima provodimo mnogo vremena rade u tehnolo\u0161kom sektoru i u kojem \u0107emo se vjerojatno seliti vi\u0161e puta u \u017eivotu; s vremenom bismo mogli imati i dijete imena Sven.\u00a0 Ako pak na\u0161 spoj u petak dobro pro\u0111e, mogli bismo naginjati prema \u017eivotu u kojem \u0107emo mnogo vremena provoditi u svijetu kazali\u0161ta, a dijete bi nam se moglo zvati Valerija, dok bi mu baka mogla biti egzoti\u010dnog podrijetla.<\/p>\n

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Jednom kad napravimo svoj izbor, stvari se mogu po\u010deti \u010diniti kao da su oduvijek trebale biti takvima, kao da je postojala neka esencija prema kojoj smo se oduvijek kretali, i jednostavno smo morali zavr\u0161iti s malim Svenom ili Valerijom koji pu\u017eu prema nama po tepihu. No u periodu odlaska na spojeve, bli\u017ei smo ve\u0107oj i dubljoj istini: ne postoji jedan jedini scenarij.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sartreov drugi veliki zaklju\u010dak je da nas stvarno prepoznavanje vlastite slobode mo\u017ee dovesti u stanje velike, ali neizbje\u017ene anksioznosti, koja je na neki na\u010din spasonosna. Svjesni svoje stvarne slobode, prihva\u0107amo da moramo donositi zaklju\u010dke i da, u isto vrijeme, nikad ne\u0107emo imati to\u010dne i potpune informacije na kojima ih mo\u017eemo temeljiti, uz savr\u0161enu mudrost i sposobnost predvi\u0111anja koju bismo mo\u017eda htjeli imati.<\/strong> Navigiramo uglavnom slijepi, prisiljeni da donosimo odluke koje bismo u idealnom slu\u010daju prepustili bogovima, no u sekularnom svijetu, nemamo druge opcije nego da ih donesemo sami.<\/p>\n

Na spojevima bismo se tako mogli pitati: za koga bismo se trebali odlu\u010diti? Koliko dugo trebamo nastaviti? Kako da znamo je li ova ili ona osoba dobra za nas?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sartreov odgovor je da nikad zapravo ne mo\u017eemo znati, no nikad ne\u0107emo biti vi\u0161e i bolje \u017eivi i autenti\u010dni nego kad\u00a0se predamo takvim upitima: fluidnost na\u0161ih sudbina tada je opipljiva, sa svom\u00a0\u010dudnovatosti i \u010dudom koji dolaze uz to.<\/p>\n

Pre\u010desto gubimo taj osje\u0107aj fluidnosti. Pretpostavljamo da je to ono \u0161to je trebalo biti i da nemamo daljnih mogu\u0107ih izbora. Periodi u kojima odlazimo na spojeve pobijaju takve ideje.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nije ni \u010dudo da se stvari \u010dine riskantnima. Sartre nas je htio osna\u017eiti za izazove koje one sa sobom donose.<\/strong> Dejtanje gura na stranu veo na\u0161e normalne\u00a0ugodnosti i otkriva\u00a0predivnu, zastra\u0161uju\u0107u i istovremeno, uzbudljivu nesigurnost egzistencije.<\/strong> S tolikim\u00a0 egzistencijalnim izazovima pred nama bar nam, ako ni\u0161ta drugo, ne\u0107e biti previ\u0161e dosadno.<\/p>\n

Izvor<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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