{"id":1282,"date":"2017-03-27T09:21:53","date_gmt":"2017-03-27T09:21:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/existentia.com.hr\/?p=1282"},"modified":"2017-04-01T08:25:27","modified_gmt":"2017-04-01T08:25:27","slug":"kako-zivjeti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/existentia.com.hr\/hr\/kako-zivjeti\/","title":{"rendered":"Nau\u010diti \u017eivjeti od Elisabeth K\u00fcbler-Ross"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Kako \u017eivjeti? Odgovor na ovo pitanje daje poznata psihijatrica Elisabeth K\u00fcbler-Ross. Te\u0161ke egzistencijalne situacije \u010desto su\u00a0 korak do odgovora upravo na pitanje kako nau\u010diti \u017eivjeti. Autorica ovog \u010dlanka, nau\u010dila je to iz prve ruke.<\/p>\n

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Ne znam to\u010dno za\u0161to sam u\u0161la u knji\u017earu to popodne, osim \u010dinjenice da se “self-help” sekcija \u010dinila logi\u010dnim mjestom za biti dok sam gurala kolica svojeg \u010detverogodi\u0161njeg sina kojemu su upravo dijagnosticirali rijetki, degenerativni mo\u017edani poreme\u0107aj.<\/p>\n

Poput mnogih, prvi put sam se susrela s Dr. Elisabeth K\u00fcbler-Ross na fakultetu, gdje smo za zadatak imali pro\u010ditati njezinu klju\u010dnu knjigu, O smrti i umiranju<\/em>. Dok se s njom najvi\u0161e povezuje poznatih “pet stupnjeva tugovanja”, sredi\u0161nja poruka O smrti i umiranju<\/em> je zapravo “va\u017enost slu\u0161anja toga \u0161to nam mrtvi imaju za re\u0107i o svojim potrebama.” Glas koji je dr. K\u00fcbler-Ross tom knjigom dala umiru\u0107ima – i koji je prikladno nazvala “\u0160to umiru\u0107i mogu nau\u010diti doktore, medicinske sestre, sve\u0107enstvo i svoje vlastite obitelji” – a koji je jednako va\u017ean i dirljiv danas koliko je bio i prije 40 godina. (Ako niste pro\u010ditali tu knjigu, trebali biste).<\/p>\n

No ono \u010dega se najvi\u0161e sje\u0107am iz knjige Dr. K\u00fcbler-Ross nije, zapravo, ono \u0161to je napisala o smrti, nego ono \u0161to je imala za re\u0107i o \u017eivotu:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tek kad zaista znamo i razumijemo da na svijetu imamo ograni\u010deno vrijeme – i da ne mo\u017eemo nikako znati kad na\u0161e vrijeme istje\u010de – tek tada \u0107emo po\u010deti \u017eivjeti svaki dan do kraja, kao da je jedini koji imamo.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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I da, moj mozak fakultetske dobi interpretirao je to kao razlog da malo du\u017ee ostane vani i da na raftingu provede malo vi\u0161e vremena, no vi\u0161e od desetlje\u0107a poslije, kad me Dr. K\u00fcbler-Ross ponovo prona\u0161la – ovog puta dok sam gurala svog terminalno bolesnog sina kroz redove knji\u017eare – ideja”ograni\u010denog vremena na svijetu” vi\u0161e nije bila apstraktan koncept. Gledala je ravno u mene kroz prekrasne zelene o\u010di mog plavokosog, malog dje\u010daka.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

Rado bih da vam mogu re\u0107i da sam hrabro u\u0161etala u tu knji\u017earu, odlu\u010dna da na\u0111em pomo\u0107 koju trebam, no nisam. Bila sam slomljena. Nisam znala kamo se okrenuti i zadnja stvar koju sam htjela trebati bila je knjiga o smrti. Kad sam posegnula za Dr. K\u00fcbler-Rossinom “O djeci i smrti”, tog popodneva, zastala sam na sekundu…osje\u0107ala sam se kao da svi u trgovini znaju \u0161to tra\u017eim…kao da je iznad moje glave bila velika neonska strelica koja je pokazivala ravno u mene urlaju\u0107i:” Gledajte JU! Mo\u017eete li vjerovati da treba TU knjigu?” (O\u010dito nisam jo\u0161 pro\u010ditala Elisabethinu knjigu “O \u017eivotu poslije smrti”, u kojoj pi\u0161e “Mi\u0161ljenje koje drugi ljudi imaju o vama njihov je problem, ne va\u0161”.) No, u stvarnosti, ta je knjiga spasila moj \u017eivot.<\/p>\n

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Umiranje mo\u017ee biti te\u017eak posao. Rado bih da to ne znam, no to je ne\u0161to \u0161to nau\u010dite kad provedete devet godina gledaju\u0107i groznu bolest kako pusto\u0161i va\u0161eg sina. Ako postoji gora bol od toga da morate sjediti i gledati kako vam dijete sporo vene do smrti, ne \u017eelim ju poznavati. \u010cinjenica da i dalje – iako ne uvijek \u010dvrsto – fascinira me, a nekad i zabavlja.<\/p>\n

Kako \u017eivjeti, \u010dak i sa smr\u0107u u blizini?
\n<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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No zahvaljuju\u0107i Dr. K\u00fcbler Ross, tih devet godina nisu bile potpuno grozne. Ustvari, imam mnogo sje\u0107anja vremena sa svojim sinom od pomisli na koje se smije\u0161im, jer – kao \u0161to me Elisabeth K\u00fcbler Ross nau\u010dila – prihva\u0107anje da je kraj blizu osloba\u0111a nas da u potpunosti iskoristimo vrijeme koje imamo i to su vremena koja mi daju snagu.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

Tijekom tih devet godina, nikad nisam propustila priliku da kuham, igram se ili molim sa svojim sinom ili pomaknem namje\u0161taj u dnevnoj sobi, poja\u010dam glazbu i odr\u017eim na\u0161u vlastitu verziju plesnog partija. Tako\u0111er nikad ne\u0107u zaboraviti trenutak kad sam uvjerila sestru da mi pomogne spojiti 800 centimetara duge dijelove cijevi za kisik, kako bi moj sin mogao iskusiti kakav je to osje\u0107aj “plivati poput dupina”.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Je li se svim sestrama svi\u0111ala ta ideja? K vragu, nije. Ona nije slijedila pravila toga kako bismo trebali brinuti za terminalno bolesno dijete. Ali Elisabethine rije\u010di osna\u017eile su me da izazovem medicinske konvencije i da u potpunosti iskoristimo \u017eivot<\/a> mog sina Austina. To ne zna\u010di da ve\u0107inu vremena nismo slijedili pravila, no prihva\u0107anje da \u0107e on umrijeti ohrabrilo me da pitam za\u0161to moje dijete, vezano na krevet, ne mo\u017ee i\u0107i u bazen. (\u0160to je najgore \u0161to se mo\u017ee dogoditi? Umrijet \u0107e?) I dok se ve\u0107inu dana – zahvaljuju\u0107i bijednoj bolesti koju je naslijedio – Austin mogao jedva micati, tog dana – zahvaljuju\u0107i hrabrosti koju mi je dala Elisabeth – on je plivao.<\/p>\n

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Elisabeth K\u00fcbler-Ross rekla je svojoj djeci neka puste balone u nebo kad ona umre, da proslave ono \u0161to je ona vidjela kao “diplomiranje”. Stoga, na godi\u0161njicu njenog “diplomiranja”, zahvalna sam, ne samo za to \u0161to nas je nau\u010dila o smrti, ve\u0107 i \u0161to mi je pokazala u vezi \u017eivota.” \u017divi”<\/em><\/strong>, rekla je, “kako se ne bi morao osvrtati i govoriti: “Bo\u017ee, kako sam potratio\/la svoj \u017eivot”.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Dianne Grey<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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Izvor<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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