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Self-care during holidays: feeding our soul

The holiday season can bring to the forefront different feelings. Some of them can be pleasant, but repressed feelings such as sadness, longing or loneliness can also come out. Therefore, it is important that we take care of our soul in this period of the year.

The holiday season brings out various feelings. Some of them can be feelings of community and holiday joy, but it can also bring to the surface less pleasant ones. Thus suppressed sadness, longing, loneliness, memories of people who are no longer present, worries about finances or stress just as often find their place at the holiday table. Therefore, it is important to listen to your soul more than usual and to provide it with what it craves for.

The holiday period is a period of increased expectations, busy preparations or idleness during the holiday period. The first thing in such a period is to check your own expectations. Are they realistic? Expectations that everything will look like in Hollywood Christmas movies are usually not realistic. Namely, this is a period in which busyness increases and business years end. This also means crowds on the roads and in shops, an increased number of obligations. This further usually creates increased nervousness for everyone involved. In such a period, it is good to stop more often and sense how we feel. Are we nervous? Do we feel overwhelmed? If the answer is yes, maybe it’s time to take five minutes for ourselves.

Boundaries and various feelings during the holiday period

What often also opens up during holiday times is a question of bounderies. Holidays bring with them family gatherings or seeing again people from whom we may have been separated at some point in our lives. Some of these gatherings may be dear to us, and others less dear. It is therefore necessary to learn where and how to set a limit so that we do not feel exhausted and overwhelmed. Is our presence necessary at each and every gathering? It is good to stop for a moment and try to sense ourselves. Have we “stretched” somewhere beyond our capabilities? If the answer is yes, it’s time to stop and reassess our own needs. Do we need to retreat, be alone or take some time for ourselves?

Feelings of sadness and loneliness can also often rise to the surface because during the holiday season the topic of family gatherings and togetherness arises, and partly because in such an atmosphere we can remember loved ones who are no longer with us or are not present. It is good to be aware of these emotions and accept them. and let them be there with us. It also does not mean that we should give in to them. But it’s good to feel them and let them come to the surface, because they are there for a reason. They indicate some value that the person who is no longer there left in our life. Likewise, many existential fears can surface during this period. After all, it is the moment when the end of the year is approaching, so we evaluate the period as well, consciously or unconsciously.

Caring for yourself

In such a context, self-care is essential. It is good to give yourself and extra care, the kind that nourishes not only our body and stress coping mechanisms, but also our soul. This also means doing things that bring us joy and relax us. It can be a warm bath, reading a book, going for a walk, going to the cinema or spending time in nature. Let’s make sure we ask ourselves – what feeds our soul? Spending time with loved ones can help. Creative ornament making or winter cheer can also help our soul feel refreshed. A good play, book or movie can also warm us up from the inside.

For those who feel lonely during the holidays or who are unable to be with their loved ones, it is good to see if there are any community centers nearby that offer support. Volunteering can also reduce feelings of loneliness.

On the Random acts of cardness Facebook group, members of the group send each other Christmas cards. Receiving a card from someone as well as sending it can create a sense of belonging to a group during this period and ease feelings of loneliness.

Mindfulness and mindfulness practices have been scientifically proven to help us stay in the present moment, which helps relieve stress or anxiety. Take time to come back to yourself, pay attention to your breath and be in the moment.

Also, the time of holidays is the time of decorated scenes that emanate beauty and warmth. Try to pay attention to the beauty around you, which can be expressed in lights and decorated scenes. A mindful walk through Christmas or winter landscapes can help with feelings of stress.

Whatever we do, it is important not to forget our soul. It is necessary to feed her and give her warmth. May she go through this period as satisfied as possible.